Some people are good at being in love. Some people are good at love. Two very different things, I think. Being in love is the romantic part—sex all the time, midday naps in the sheets, the jokes, the laughs, the fun, long conversations with no pauses, overwhelming separation anxiety… Just the best sides of both people, you know? But love begins when the excitement of being in love starts to fade: the stress of life sets in, the butterflies disappear, the sex becomes a chore, the tears, the sadness, the arguments, the cattiness… The worst parts of both people. But if you still want that person by your side through all of those things… that’s when you know—that’s when you know you’re good at love.
Nick Miller, Isn’t It Pretty To Think So?
I know that women are not supposed to sleep around all the time, because then you’re a slut and the reason men hate you. But you’re also not supposed to turn down men’s advances all the time or put them in the ‘friend zone,’ because then you’re a cold-hearted bitch and you’re the reason men hate you.
Why is a woman’s sexuality
Always under so much scrutiny?
Why can’t she do exactly as she please
Without being called a million things?
Christina Aguilera - “Still Dirrty” (2006)
All the hardest, coldest people you meet,
were once as soft as water.
And that’s the tragedy of living.
You are most powerful when you are most silent. People never expect silence. They expect words, motion, defense, offense, back and forth. They expect to leap into the fray. They are ready, fists up, words hanging leaping from their mouths. Silence? No.
There are instincts which are deeper than reason.